This article on how to rebound from rejections is part of the Coaching Collective series, featuring tips and expertise from Flatiron School Career Coaches. Every Flatiron School graduate is eligible to receive up to 180 days of 1:1 career coaching with one of our professional coaches. This series is a glimpse of the expertise you can access during career coaching at Flatiron School.
Rejection is a natural part of life. But, it can be particularly difficult for graduates and those in their early careers who are entering the workforce for the first time to rebound from rejections. The experience can be disheartening and demotivating, especially if this is your first job search experience.
However, it’s important to remember that rejection doesn’t define your worth or potential. Here are seven tips for rebounding from rejections and how to keep moving forward despite them.
Keep a Positive Mindset
It’s easy to spiral into negative thinking after a rejection. However, a positive mindset can help you bounce back and approach future opportunities optimistically.
One thing I see that helps grads rebound quickly is turning to one positive thought such as “I owe this to myself and my family” or “I’ve been successful at other things and I know I can do this too”. If you have difficulty coming up with a single positive thought try looking for a quote that inspires you and adopt it as your own. For example, here is an uplifting quote I recently came across. “As I look back on my life, I realize that every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being re-directed to something better.” ~ Steve Maraboli
Focus on your strengths and accomplishments, and don’t let rejection undermine your self-confidence. Remember that rejection is a learning opportunity, and it can help you improve and grow.
Refocus on Your Why
When you’re rejected, it’s easy to lose sight of why you were pursuing that particular job or industry in the first place. Take a step back and remind yourself of your goals and the importance of persevering. Rejection is just a temporary setback, and you can still achieve your objectives through other opportunities.
Look at the Big Picture
When you get rejected from something you wanted, it can feel like the end of the world. But, it’s important to keep things in perspective. Remember that there are countless other opportunities, and try not to set your heart on any one company.
One rejection doesn’t define your future. Keep your eye on the big picture, and don’t get too hung up on a single rejection.
Learn From The Experience
Rejection can be a valuable learning opportunity. Ask for feedback and use it to improve your application materials or interview skills. You can also reflect on your own performance and identify areas for growth. Use rejection as a chance to learn and improve, rather than a reason to give up.
Take Rejection with Grace
Getting that rejection letter from a company can stir up a lot of feelings. Writing a letter back and thanking them for the opportunity and time they took to consider you can help get you back on track.
A message like this can help you see it from the employer’s perspective as well as help to let go of ill feelings. It also may make you stand out from the rest as a mature professional and if any other opportunities come up you are more likely to be reconsidered.
Stay Persistent
Persistence is key when it comes to rebounding from rejection. Keep applying for other opportunities, and don’t let rejection deter you. It’s important to keep pushing forward, even when it feels difficult. Remember that rejection is a normal part of the process, and it’s not a reflection of your abilities or potential.
Conclusion
Rejection is a difficult but necessary part of life. By maintaining a positive mindset, refocusing on your goals, keeping perspective, learning from rejection, and staying persistent, you can rebound from rejection and achieve your objectives.
Remember that rejection doesn’t define you, and there are always other opportunities out there.
About Julie Allen
Julie Allen is a career coach with Flatiron School. She also has a private career coach business called The StoryMakers. Julie comes from 20 years as a manager in the tech industry helping corporate America achieve its goals. She is located in the Phoenix area, where she inspires young professionals to go after their dream jobs. Julie holds a BA in English and Psychology from Washington State University and an MBA from Golden Gate University.
